Don't get me wrong, I feel really lucky to have 3 boys all close in age. I look forward to them being best friends for life, but all the fighting drives me crazy...and the baby isn't even there yet! Below are my favorite solutions from the experts to stop sibling fighting between my 2.5 and 5 year old. Hopefully I can remember and calmly implement these when in the trenches...
Ahhh, Jesse Rose. Where to even start with this one? Jesse is one of those people who walks into a room and everyone turns to look and listen. She has style, charisma, spunk, intelligence and wit to make anyone want to step up his or her game. She's also (no accident here) one of the owners and drivers behind the hugely successful, influential and downright genius Kansas City, MO based architecture and design firm, Hufft Projects. Oh, and she's mother to 3 darling children, Rock, Cash and Clover and wife to the architect behind Hufft Projects. Below is Green & Plenty's interview with this true beauty who I'm lucky enough to call one of my oldest and dearest friends. You and your husband, Matthew Hufft have built an amazing business in Hufft Projects, an architecture, design and fabrication collaborative. Tell me about your role there.
Well I've really handled all business matters for Hufft Projects since the beginning, with a special focus on directing the PR and marketing team where I've been influential in getting Hufft Projects in magazines like Dwell, etc. My role has a broad reach and my day to day changes, but I'm involved with all divisions of the company and I love that!
Speaking of Dwell, the home the Hufft's built for themselves and their 3 young children is featured in this month's issue (April 2015). The Showhouse is SO awesome (I'm lucky enough to know from experience). Check out the feature on the Hufft's own home in Dwell magazine.
Impressive job! And SUCH a stunning home...especially for entertaining! Tell us about your entertaining philosophy? I love to entertain. It's a great way to really get to know our clients. We entertain about twice a month and so my philosophy is "keep it simple". I serve no-cook apps like smoked salmon with toasts, capers and creme fresh. Other hits are quick and easy pickled veggies and deviled eggs. I love recipes from Bon Appetit and have been using them for 15 years...they're always reliable. Plus a nice "proper drink" to start never hurts. We've gone classic lately with cocktails, and again, simple: Bourbon rocks or with a splash of ginger is a favorite or tequila (or vodka) with lots of fresh citrus and mint.
How do you feed a lot of people an impressive meal without losing your mind and still finding time to really chat and entertain? Again, I think simple is best. For the main, I like one big meat dish that I can make ahead like braised sort ribs or rack of lamb served over polenta or this twice baked sweet poatotes with bacon sesame brittle. I'll serve a seasonal and interesting salad of baby kale or lettuce with lots of fresh torn herbs, goat cheese, blueberries or grapes and a simple lemon vinaigrette. Finally, a great bread from local KC baker, Farm to Market Bread. Dessert is usually a carrot cake I make or a pie from Upper Crust Bakery and ice cream from Glace.
You always look put together and fresh, especially with a full-time job and 3 kids. What's your style and beauty philosophy? I would say I have a pretty classic style but I do like to put some sort of edge or current fashion element to it. I love having a basic uniform especially for work: neutral colors and basic, classic pieces. It helps me get ready quickly and without doubt. Items from KC based brand Baldwin and Madewell speak to my basics persona and Kansas City boutique Standard Style and Anthropologie are fun for keeping it fresh. I feel like I’m re-finding my style after having kids; for 6 years I wasn’t buying things I wanted bc I was pregnant, or going to be. For beauty, I've recently started using RMS beauty products and am now very focused on my skin. I love Malin and Goetzlip moisturizer,Deva products for my curly hair and an eyelash tint always helps make me feel better (I go to Hoopla for that)!
So if you had $50 to spend on style or beauty, what would you buy? I'm much more focused on my face and skin now so I would probably spend it on a peel with my aesthetician or an oil. I also need a great hat! A few years ago you and architect husband, Matthew designed your own home. What are some of your "must have's"?
Mud room: the holding chamber for backpacks, shoes etc. with lots of storage and ways for kids to reach their own things, hooks shoes etc.
Storage everywhere so everything can be clean again quickly. We have lots of cabinets.
Flor carpet tiles, especially because we have 3 kids and 2 dogs.
Big glass doors that open to the backyard so I can see the kids play.
Smaller bedrooms for the kids leaves more room for the laundry and playroom on their floor.
Having the playroom on second floor makes bedtime more seamless and they’re starting to wake up in the morning and just go play rather than come bug us. It will become the homework room eventually.
Any wish list items?
A butler’s pantry kitchen with dishwasher
Another bathroom in the mudroom, especially with 2 boys who don’t always keep things where they need to be...
A bit more separation between the living and kitchen area
One focus of Green & Plenty is finding balance in our hectic lives. How do you find yours?
It's different every week. I make sure one week isn’t too heavy with work stuff, entertaining etc. I get really stressed when we have a constant week of going. So I work hard to balance our calendar between down time and social obligations, which sometimes feels like a job in itself. I feel lucky to work with my husband. While we don't work side by side all day, it's nice to grab lunch or a coffee together. And with the kids being 2, 4 and 6 now, we are really finding our groove how to hang as a family, and that is incredibly fun. We haven't quite made it through the crazy years, but that light at the end of the tunnel is getting brighter. It's our family business- we really eat, sleep and breath it, but we love it. I like to think that I provide a little balance to the "family side" of the family business so that it still feels more like a small business even though it has grown to over 45 employees. It's fun to be around all the people with such a passion for design and talent in their various areas. It's the job I never knew I always wanted. You and Matthew lived in NYC until 2006. What do you miss most about it?
Definitely the insane amount of great restaurant options. The last time I was in NYC we went to Blue Ribbon for Sushi...it was the best sushi meal of my life. But we love Kansas City and it has so much to offer. Jesse and her family have proudly called Kansas City home for almost 10 years now. Stay tuned for Jesse's KC favorites on Green & Plenty.... Thanks, Jesse Rose!! I'm amazed, inspired, proud and lucky!!!
I have a love-hate relationship with cereal. I love it because it's easy- my 4 year old can make it himself and my kids really like it. And I hate it because it lacks real nourishment: it's typically low in protein, processed, and high in sugar. It also goes right through my kids leaving them hungry 30 minutes after eating. I've spent my fair share of time in the cereal aisle and have yet to find anything that's a great choice. Sure, there are some fine choices, but nothing that comes anywhere close to this recipe for real nutrition and staying power!
This recipe for Nut Butter Granola is super nutrient desnse...here's the breakdown:
15 grams of protein and only 6 grams of sugar per 1/2 cup serving!
healthy fats including omega-3s and lauric acid to boost immunity
2 Tbsp coconut oil
1/4 cup butter (ideally grass fed, like Kerrygold)
1/2 cup nut butter
1/4 cup real maple syrup (plus or minus depending on your family's taste preferences)
1 tsp vanilla
pinch of cinnamon
pinch of salt
2 cups oats
1/2 cup pistachios*
1 cup cashews*
1 cup pumpkin seeds*
1. Combine the oil, butter, nut butter, maple syrup and vanilla in a sauce pan and heat on low until combined
2. Pulse the cashews, pumpkin seeds and pistachios lightly until some are broken up but some remain whole (I only do this because my 2 and 4 year old prefer the nuts to be broken down).
3. Pour the wet mixture over the dry and stir adding cinnamon and salt
4. Spread the mixture on a baking sheet and cook at 350 for 20-30 minutes or until it begins to dry (the timing may vary depending on your oven and taste preferences).
* You can use any nuts and seeds that you like but I use these because they're some of the highest in protein, magnesium and zinc.
Do you give your child a multivitamin? What about other supplements? Since school is back in session and we have less control over what and who our child is exposed to (aka less than ideal food and germs), it's a good time to consider your child's diet and potentially supplements.
Most children don't eat perfectly balanced diets most days (if any). In fact, less than 20% of kids get the required 4-5 servings of fruits and vegetables per day. Additionally, a child's diet, appetite and affinity for healthy food can change daily- every day is different around here! So when I'm asked if I give my children a vitamin and if I think it's necessary, my response is "most of the time it can't hurt, and can really help."
So what is the right multivitamin for kids and what other supplements do kids need?
Preparing for the arrival of a baby is exciting! Your life is about to change in a major way whether this is baby #1 or #6. I've found there are a few unique things you can do for yourself, your family and your home that will make the last few weeks of pregnancy more relaxing and help you survive and even thrive in the days after baby comes home.
1. Get a chair massage (aka take time for yourself):
Chair massages have been such a great treat for me these last few weeks. A full prenatal massage is also a great option if you have the time, can find someone with the right table and have the funds, but for me, a 20 minute chair massage once a week has helped me relax and feel "treated" without disrupting my schedule or bank account too much. I also suggest getting your hair and nails done :)
2. Practice Yoga:
Maybe it's because I'm not getting any younger, but this 3rd pregnancy has been tougher on my body and I've been crabbier than ever. Yoga has helped with both the body and mind issues of late pregnancy. And it's a nice little escape from the rest of the world.
4. Get in the water:
Similar to yoga, being in the water has felt great on my joints. And there's just something about being in and near water that makes you feel refreshed. Who doesn't need a refresher after 8-9 months of pregnancy...
5. Have a "bringing home baby" outfit for yourself:
There will be lots of photos in the first few days and weeks, and most of them will be of the baby, but have someone take some photos of your new family on the day baby comes home. A nice shot at the hospital or in front of the house is a great keepsake. Find something you can breastfeed in (if you're choosing to breastfeed) and something loose fitting....there will still be a bump (the Duchess of Cambridge had one, and you will too). Here are some ideas for cute and comfortable postpartum style.
6. Buy baskets:
Babies have so much stuff. Keeping a few extra baskets around the house helps keep that stuff organized. Toys, dirty clothes, clean clothes, diapers, pads, etc. etc. Put it in baskets and help keep your sanity.
7. Prepare for the pain:
You'll be sore after birth. A former colleague introduced me to the idea of soaking pads in witch hazel, wrapping them in foil and putting them in the freezer. This will feel great for the first few days home after baby...trust me! And on that note, there are serious uterine contractions even days after the baby is born, especially when breastfeeding and especially with each subsequent baby. Stay on top of your pain meds (if you're taking them) or brace yourself and your family. I didn't realize this with my second and was wailing on the couch the first night home...thank goodness my mom was there.
8. Buy gifts for the other children from the baby and vice versa:
My 4 year old has been talking to my belly requesting his new toy for weeks. The baby will take a lot of their attention away, but they also need to accept that and learn to give and welcome this new little member. I can't wait for the gift exchange in the hospital!
9. Think about food and water.
Prepare a few extra meals for the freezer, stock up on trail mix, bars, good cheese, smoked salmon, hard boiled eggs, frozen fruit and veg for smoothies etc. Most days when you're the only adult in the house, you won't sit down to a meal but maybe grab a handful of trail mix, an apple and some cheese. And regarding water, your thirst level if nursing will be out of control. Treat yourself to an extra large glass or stainless container with a straw. It will be your new best friend!
10. Consider placenta encapsulation:
If you're worried about postpartum depression, low energy or low milk levels, placenta encapsulation might be a good idea for you. I've read about this a lot lately and a friend and acupuncturist just told me that she did it and it helped her immensely with energy levels and balanced emotional health. It's touted to help ward off postpartum depression, balance hormones, increase milk supply and replenish nutrients lost during birth. I haven't tried this before but am considering it this time around. This article about placenta encapsulation on For The Love Of is very informative.
Good luck and ENJOY!!! This will truly be one of the most amazing experiences of you life...soak it all up!
Style after baby (especially in the first few weeks and months) isn't typically glamours, but that doesn't mean it can't be sometimes. Here are a few stylish, affordable and washable mom uniform looks that you can breastfeed in anywhere, anytime and still feel a little cuter than you do in your yoga clothes -without sacrificing the comfort. Just add an oversized scarf and/or favorite cardigan and you're all covered...literally :)